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|I was recently asked as a martial arts instructor to participate in various programs sponsored by the local government for single mothers. My contribution was to be a short course in self defense techniques that would enhance and build their self esteem and confidence. I had never given thought to the life that a single mother would find herself in because that situation had never touched my family or friends and after considering the request I was happy to oblige.
As a Chief Instructor and a 4th Dan black belt in Tae Kwon Do I am aware that to reach a level of proficiency in any self defense program takes a lot of time, practice and dedication as achieved by hundreds of my students, a mixture of young and old, both male and female, so what could I offer?.A short course in the use of various parts of the body such as elbows, knees, forehead, heels etc to defend oneself (can you imagine the pain and end result of the heel of a high heel shoe being stomped into the upper part of your own foot) is an effective deterrent for someone physically imposing themselves upon you but would it not be better to have avoided or minimized the opportunity for that to happen. And so in addition to the self defense I encompassed the following for their and your information.
Your residence needs to be a safe place for you and your children and I know that door locks and security screens are a deterrent to those who lead a deviant life style, but you can further that security aspect with a visual “stay out without an invitation” by doing the following….
1. You can give the impression that “a very large man lives here” by obtaining male clothing that you can hang outside on a clothes line. These items can be obtained from second hand shops etc. Obtain the largest you can and just swap them around every few days. A large pair of thongs, sandals or boots left at the front and rear doors is also advisable.
2. Leave a notice on both doors which could read “Do not disturb…Shift worker.” Or something along those lines. Any person with bad intentions looking at or entering your premise is going to have serious second thoughts about what they are doing after reading that sort of information.
3. Get to know your neighbors and make friends with those of them you can trust, they will also be your eyes and ears and looking after your interests, the more you have in your circle of friends the safer you will be and the more secure you will feel.
4.When out shopping or socializing don’t park your car in an out of the way area, park as close as you can to activity and where it can be easily seen and always lock your vehicle on exit and after entry. If when you are in your vehicle you notice a sign or paper on your window (front or rear) leave it until you arrive at your next destination, some people have been assaulted and robbed when they have unlocked and gotten out to read the note. Sadly we live in an era where people are not what they seem to be and it is not getting better, people are becoming more desperate and violent as we see in every day news.
During the implementation of this course which was enjoyed and received with great enthusiasm I noted that one question most asked by participants was “Because my life is rather reclusive and centered on house, work and children, how can I safely find a partner or socialize?” My answer was always a referral to one of the easiest, practical and informative sources I have read on that subject that can be found at “shoptillyoudropwithgarry” (see resource box) under the section” Dating “. It details where and how to safely find and develop relationships, finding a partner with similar interests, how to read body language and know if your new friend finds you attractive, safety when socializing, various ways to expand your circle of friends and much more.(this is a must have for all searching for the ideal partner) This would answer their question and add so much more to what I was teaching them.
The course concluded and I had made many new friends who now have a new level of confidence in themselves and a positive view to adjustments that all are able to make to improve their lifestyle. We can all be of assistance in this arena by being mindful of other peoples needs and being there to reach out a hand of support and friendship and use our skill sets to help where we can.
|Served on Education, Christian and Community boards for over 20 years. Adult loving family with wonderful grandchildren.Pasion for cooking and Asian food. http://www.shoptillyoudropwithgarry.com